22 things for 22

I recently turned 22 and at the time I thought I would write about 22 things that I have learnt at the age of 22. Well as I sat down to write this blog post things didn’t go as planned. I decided to write about the biggest lessons that I have learnt in my 22 years of life. The most major thing that I am coming to terms with is the fact that you cannot control certain things that happen in life. I remember that I would dream about where I would be at 22 and the things that I would have accomplished when I was still in my teenage years. Needless to say I am far from achieving certain goals, and closer to some.

I have learnt that I need to let go of the things that I cannot control. This hasn’t been easy but the process of letting go has given me more peace than I could have ever imagined. Another part that is connected to letting go is not caring about the opinions of other people. We all go through different struggles in life that are most probably only known by the people close to us. The opinions of those people who are close to you should be the only one that matter. Surround yourself with people who are genuinely for you. People who want to see you become a better version of yourself, and succeed in whatever endeavors that you undertake.

Be your biggest cheerleader. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Always aim to be a better version of yourself, and let go of the things that you cannot control.

 

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Fashion and Style

My friends and I recently decided to  go out. We decided to go and get some lunch at a place that we like going to. We met up a few minutes before we were suppose to leave and boy did we get the shock of our lives. We were all wearing skirts. I don’t know why were so shocked because this happens most of the time. We always end up wearing similar outfits or have a common theme going on.The cool thing is that even though we were all wearing skirts we all styled them differently. It is always interesting to see how people style different outfits based on their own sense of style or what makes them comfortable.

One thing that I have learnt is that you have to be your own person. You have to embrace your own sense of style, and always do you. You have to have your own identity and feel free to express yourself. Gianni Versace once said, “Don’t be into trends. Don’t make fashion own you, but you decide what you are, what you want to express by the way you dress and the way you live.”

Birthdays…

Your friend or family member has a birthday coming up, and you just have no idea as to what to do or get them. My friends and I were in such a predicament not to long ago. One of my friend’s had her birthday coming up, and luckily for us she knew what she wanted to do for her big day. We just had to figure out what to get her.

She also made that easy yet very difficult when she said she wanted a sentimental gift. My first thought after she said that was how in the world are we going to find a sentimental gift. I had the idea to actually get her a bunch of small gifts consisting of things that she likes or things that remind us of her. Luckily while we were still contemplating that we thought of the perfect sentimental gift that we could get her.

Through this whole process I realized that sometimes we make things more complicated than what they have to be. Sometimes people just want to spend their big days with people that they care about.  Don’t make things more difficult than what they have to be. Think about your friend, and come up with ideas about what they would like. At the end of the day it is the thought that counts.

For my friend Neo we went out to do something outdoors, and we went out for dinner. We decided to go out for a walk early in the morning in a place that has awesome views. Unfortunately that day was very windy so it make our walk a bit uncomfortable but it was nothing that we couldn’t handle. It was such a fun experience. We took so many pictures, shared laughs and smiles. It made my heart happy to see Neo happy on her birthday. After our walk we had to get ready for dinner.

Getting ready for dinner was loads of fun. Everyone got dressed up and we had a mini photo-shoot outside before we left. Here are some images from Neo’s birthday. Hope you get some inspiration to start enjoying celebrating your loved ones big days. Remember all that counts is the effort that you put in to make their day special, and make them feel loved.

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The birthday girl

What is beauty?

I recently started a series called beauty on a budget and I thought I would write about what beauty is to me. We all have different definitions of what beauty is based on the way that we were raised and the society that we live in. Some people think that beauty is only about how you look on the outside. Personally I think beauty starts from the inside and then radiates on the outside. Your self-worth and how you view yourself is very important.

Your self-worth determines how you treat yourself. If you value yourself you will make sure that you take care of yourself. You will only pay attention to the opinion of people who actually matter in your life.  You will surround yourself with people who only want the best for you. People who will help you discover what the true meaning of beauty is. The true meaning being having a beautiful soul. Being someone who only wants the best for everyone. Someone who isn’t malicious but who see’s the value in spreading love and light wherever they go.

The most beautiful people are those who want to make a difference. People who work hard to inspire others. Always remember that you are one of a kind!! Let other people remember you for the wonderful deeds that you have done. Let them remember you for the difference that you made, and the goodness that emanated from your soul. Yes people remember a pretty face but they never forget a beautiful soul.

I found a quote that sums up my views on what beauty is and the essence of it.”The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”-Audrey Hepburn

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Let your beauty shine from the inside 🙂

Formal 2016

It is that time of year again where residences at my university have their end of year functions. I always look forward to this particular time during the year as I get to dress up with my friends. This year we all wanted to go all out,look gorgeous and have an awesome time with each other. We started looking for dresses early in the year in order to avoid doing last minute shopping. Ironically all of us found our dresses the closer we got to the date of formal. There were a few moments of panic when it seemed like we couldn’t find dresses that we really loved. The worst thing was when we would find dresses but they were really expensive. Overall everything came together and worked out.

The theme was modern versus vintage. Majority of the people who attended went for modern. It was really interesting seeing people’s interpretations of the theme. My friend’s and I all went for modern but we each had our own interpretation of what modern is to us. This was very apparent in the dresses that we all picked. Here a couple of pictures from our end of year function.

Thank you for everyone who takes their time to read my blog. Sorry for the lack of blog posts. School has been very hectic but everything is back to normal now.

Lots of love,

Tandzile

 

Friday afternoons

One of the things that my friends and I like doing on Friday afternoon’s is to have picnics. University can get very stressful so what better way to relax than to have good food with great company. Here is my guide to having the perfect picnic:

  1. Great weather: Make sure that it is a sunny afternoon. Imagine get sun-kissed by the sun while the clouds go by in a tranquil blue sky. Of course having a slight breeze to cool you off wouldn’t be too bad. A sunny afternoon wouldn’t be complete without your shades making an appearance 🙂
  2. Awesome company: A picnic is never complete without awesome company.Great conversation with people who understand you, and challenge you to think outside the box is a must.
  3. Delicious food: When it comes to food you can go all out. It is up to you to decide what you want to bring. Your options are unlimited from junk food to healthy food or a combination of the two. You can even include food that has sentimental value to you or that you associate with good memories.
  4. A picnic playlist:  A playlist is a must.Music helps you set the mood that you are going for. It also helps you relax and just enjoy the moment.

Birthday Celebration fit for a queen.

I recently went to another birthday celebration. My friend Nompumelelo more commonly known as Mpumie was celebrating her birthday Everyone who knows Mpumie knows that she loves good food, and an awesome selfie. We went to Monte Casino in Fourways to celebrate her birthday.

Monte Casino is a place that gives you a feel of olden day architecture. From the cobbled streets, to the picturesque skyline and the buildings that have a Tuscan style. You literally get taken away to another place.Personally it just makes me want to go to Italy, and really get the full experience. We went out to dinner at Billy G’s where they made sure that we were seated in a nice spot, and that the birthday girl was happy.

Everyone looked good.The birthday girl sure did look stunning. Wearing a three piece ensemble that was paired with a tiara. We all made sure that we looked good because Mpumie is not called the selfie queen for nothing. We took tons of pictures throughout the evening to help us capture the moment.

It was an extremely beautiful moment filled with loads of love, laughter and happiness. Of course there was a lot of delicious food and cake. No dinner or celebration is ever complete without loads of food. To the birthday girl I hope you had a beautiful evening, and cheers to many more to come.